**if you are under 18, please ask you parents if you can read this post about sexual purity. some of the content your parents may want to discuss with you before you read it. thanks!**
this study was put together by Josh Bullard. you can find/order the workbook or a video dvd series on his website created for purity.
God's View of Sex
the study starts out with several good quotes.
dennis rainey says, "the reason so many christian parents are struggling today is that they do not know what they believe and have not determined the standards, boundaries, and convictions for their children."
i think this is true for a lot of parents. we think we can wait until they are teenagers to have to deal with some of this. however, i think there's a lot to be said about figuring out our standards, boundaries and convictions now while our children are young (mine are 6 & 4).
dr. howard hendricks thinks if you want to change a person permanently, change his thinking not his behavior.
a study by josh mcdowell .... found the preferred source of sexual information for christian teenagers was not books their youth pastor, their school teachers or friends; it was their mom and dad.
i think this is shocking for most parents. it was for me. you think your children do not want to talk to you about sex, but they do - they just act like they don't. they do want to talk to their friends, but they also know their friends may not know everything or may be misinformed.
teach your children God's view of sex. they will hear it from somewhere. you want them to hear it from you and hear about God's truth about sex.
1. God created sex.
Genesis 1:27
"So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them."
John Piper asks Why did God create us sexual beings? God created us sexual being so he would have verbiage in place with with which to communicate to use the intensity of his love for us. words like bride, groom, prostitute and many other words.
2. sex is for procreation (having children) in marriage.
Genesis 1:28a
"God blessed them and said to them, "Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth."
if you children ask you about sex, keep talk as long as they keep asking questions. keep the answer simple, direct, and honest (age appropriate).
3. sex is for intimacy in marriage.
Genesis 4:1
"Adam lay with his wife Eve, and she became pregnant and gave birth to Cain. She said, "With the help of the Lord I have brought for a man."
sex is one of the ways husbands/wives get to know each other more than anyone else in the world.
4. sex is for pleasure in marriage.
this is the point where Satan twists it. we are tempted to do things that make us feel good. God designed sex for marriage, but Satan twists/perverts it. even though it may feel good for a short amount of time, it will damage us in the end.
Proverbs 5:18b-19
"Rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love."
5. sex was created to be enjoyed by a man and a woman in marriage.
marriage shows the world God's faithfulness to us. it was God's design for marriage to between a man and a woman.
Romans 1:26-27
"Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural relation for unnatural ones. In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed indecent acts with other men, and received themselves the due penalty for their perversion."
in romans 10:14 paul makes the following statement about belief in Jesus: "how shall they believe in him of whom they have not heard?"
the same principle apples regarding the beliefs of your children: how shall they believe that which they have never heard?
how well are you doing in making sure that your children hear the right things (God's truth) about sex?
what can you begin doing now that will help you prepare yourself to teach your children?
your children need to know that sex is worth the wait. how can you begin teaching them this truth?
josh mcdowell write the following regarding the beauty of sex in the marriage relationship.
God has set sex aside for marriage for the protection ad happiness of people. sex within marriage brings increased unity and opportunity to give pleasure to your spouse, as well as to find pleasure yourself. sex outside of marriage brings a momentary thrill, a release, a way to block out problems, but it brings with it an avalanche of negative consequences.
simply said, sex within marriage is within God's design and is good; sex outside of marriage is outside God's design and cannot ultimately b good. it might feel good for a moment, but sin can never be a good thing.
by reserving sex for marriage, God protects us from emotional hurt, from disease, from damaged relationships, from the misery that accompanies sin. sex needs the commitment, trust and longevity that marriage can provide....
just as sex is safe and free within the limits of God's protection, it is also able to reach its fullest and most exciting potential within those limit. there is no fear of rejection, no need to pretend, no need to sneak around, no guilt, no fear of a baby ruining your
life. this is God's provision for sex within marriage.
the study starts out with several good quotes.
dennis rainey says, "the reason so many christian parents are struggling today is that they do not know what they believe and have not determined the standards, boundaries, and convictions for their children."
i think this is true for a lot of parents. we think we can wait until they are teenagers to have to deal with some of this. however, i think there's a lot to be said about figuring out our standards, boundaries and convictions now while our children are young (mine are 6 & 4).
dr. howard hendricks thinks if you want to change a person permanently, change his thinking not his behavior.
a study by josh mcdowell .... found the preferred source of sexual information for christian teenagers was not books their youth pastor, their school teachers or friends; it was their mom and dad.
i think this is shocking for most parents. it was for me. you think your children do not want to talk to you about sex, but they do - they just act like they don't. they do want to talk to their friends, but they also know their friends may not know everything or may be misinformed.
teach your children God's view of sex. they will hear it from somewhere. you want them to hear it from you and hear about God's truth about sex.
1. God created sex.
Genesis 1:27
"So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them."
John Piper asks Why did God create us sexual beings? God created us sexual being so he would have verbiage in place with with which to communicate to use the intensity of his love for us. words like bride, groom, prostitute and many other words.
2. sex is for procreation (having children) in marriage.
Genesis 1:28a
"God blessed them and said to them, "Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth."
if you children ask you about sex, keep talk as long as they keep asking questions. keep the answer simple, direct, and honest (age appropriate).
3. sex is for intimacy in marriage.
Genesis 4:1
"Adam lay with his wife Eve, and she became pregnant and gave birth to Cain. She said, "With the help of the Lord I have brought for a man."
sex is one of the ways husbands/wives get to know each other more than anyone else in the world.
4. sex is for pleasure in marriage.
this is the point where Satan twists it. we are tempted to do things that make us feel good. God designed sex for marriage, but Satan twists/perverts it. even though it may feel good for a short amount of time, it will damage us in the end.
Proverbs 5:18b-19
"Rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love."
5. sex was created to be enjoyed by a man and a woman in marriage.
marriage shows the world God's faithfulness to us. it was God's design for marriage to between a man and a woman.
Romans 1:26-27
"Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural relation for unnatural ones. In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed indecent acts with other men, and received themselves the due penalty for their perversion."
in romans 10:14 paul makes the following statement about belief in Jesus: "how shall they believe in him of whom they have not heard?"
the same principle apples regarding the beliefs of your children: how shall they believe that which they have never heard?
how well are you doing in making sure that your children hear the right things (God's truth) about sex?
what can you begin doing now that will help you prepare yourself to teach your children?
your children need to know that sex is worth the wait. how can you begin teaching them this truth?
josh mcdowell write the following regarding the beauty of sex in the marriage relationship.
God has set sex aside for marriage for the protection ad happiness of people. sex within marriage brings increased unity and opportunity to give pleasure to your spouse, as well as to find pleasure yourself. sex outside of marriage brings a momentary thrill, a release, a way to block out problems, but it brings with it an avalanche of negative consequences.
simply said, sex within marriage is within God's design and is good; sex outside of marriage is outside God's design and cannot ultimately b good. it might feel good for a moment, but sin can never be a good thing.
by reserving sex for marriage, God protects us from emotional hurt, from disease, from damaged relationships, from the misery that accompanies sin. sex needs the commitment, trust and longevity that marriage can provide....
just as sex is safe and free within the limits of God's protection, it is also able to reach its fullest and most exciting potential within those limit. there is no fear of rejection, no need to pretend, no need to sneak around, no guilt, no fear of a baby ruining your
life. this is God's provision for sex within marriage.
next is God's view of sexual purity.
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